21 September 2007

10 Smart Moves for Women Who Want to Succeed in Love and Life - Dianna Booher

Nampak menarik dan dibuat panduan bagi yang sesuai dengan diri kita, asalkan tidak bercanggah dengan kepercayaan kita sendiri.

Saya ringkaskan apa yang terdapat di dalam buku ini:
Smart move #1:
- Master your mood - life goes better when we control our moods to motivate ourselves and others, rather than let the moods to undermine our decisions, our actions, and our advancement.
- Hidup akan menjadi lebih mudah sekiranya kita dapat mengawal perasaan kita dari menguasai hidup seharian kita. Tetapi kekadang sebagai wanita kita telah dianugerahkan perasaan yang lebih dari lelaki...sebab itu kekadang kita terlebih sensitif dan peka dari lelaki, lebih berperasaan walaupun kekadang kita mengawal perasaan tersebut untuk menunjukkan kita sama kuat seperti lelaki. Bagi saya, tidak mengapa jika kita lebih berperasaan. Itu menunjukkan kita lebih prihatin dan peka terhadap perubahan-perubahan yang berlaku di sekeliling kita dan juka perubahan-perubahan orang yang berada di sekeliling kita.

Smart move #2:
- Seek a Sense of Self-Worth - Low self-esteem affects most women at some point in their lives - during their dating years, after a job loss or business failure, during an abusive relationshio, in the midst if a struggling a poor health and others bad thing.
- Wanita boleh menjadi rasa rendah diri bilamana perkara-perkara yang tidak diingini di dalam hidup mereka terjadi. Sekiranya tidak mendapatkan sokongan dalaman dan luaran untuk mengembalikan semangat mereka, sesetengah wanita akan terus merasa rendah diri walaupun hakikatnya mereka boleh mendapatkan harga diri tersebut dgn berbagai cara...kekadang saya hampir setuju bahawa wanita ni pendek sedikit akalnya dari jantina yang satu lagi

Smart move #3:

- Set sail on your own seas - many women have been sailing along in pursuit of someone's goals; their parents goals, their spouse etc. The they wonder why their life is less fulfilling.
- The smart move #3 akan membincangkan mengenai keinginan wanita didalam mencapai impian masing2 dan di dalam masa yang sama belayar mengikut haluan yang betul...dan yang memuaskan hati wanita tersebut

Smart move #4:
- Follow through on Feedback - smart women don't pout, balk, or crumble under criticism. In fact, they seek feedback to clarify their golas, correct their course, and continue to grow as human being. The chapter offers encouragement by relating incidents in which others have learned from sometimes scathing criticism to become even more successful and satisfied in their careers and relationship

Smart move #5:
- Entertain only ethical choices -

Smart move #6:
- Put up or Shut up - we have a chance to say yes or no each time we approach a fork in the road. Some of us stand at that fork much too long, paralyzed by indecision and fear.This chapter is about evaluating risks and finding the courage to take difficult risky step. Once we've made the leap of faith, we need the discipline and emotional strength to perform without excuse. It's scary but smart
- Kekadang kita mempunyai peluang utk memilih di antara dua, ya atau tidak kepada sesuatu perkara. Tapi, seringkali kita mengambil masa yang terlalu lama untuk mengatakan ya kepada sesuatu perkara yang baik dan tidak kepada perkara yang mungkin akan memudaratkan dan membahayakan kita.Kalau diberi contoh sebahagian wanita semasa membeli belah...untuk memilih sehelai baju untuk dipakai dihari biasa mengambil masa beberapa jam untuk memilih dan mencuba..terutama pada waktu jualan mega.Ambik masa untuk memilih dan mencuba baju yang hanya akan dipakai seharian, rambang mata untuk memilih baju2 tersebut dan begitu lambat sekali untuk membuat pilihan di antara 2 baju pilihan...akhirnya end up dgn membazirkan duit membeli kedua-duanya sekali walaupun keperluan hanya memerlukan 1 baju sahaja. Bukankah itu sudah membazir?...ini contooh yang palin senang yang boleh saya berikan...contoh lain terdapat di dalam buku ini.

Smart move #7:
- Relish Relationship - how many times in the last 5-6 months you have had a lunch or dinner with your friends??? When is the last time you visited more than an hour with someone not in your immediate family???Would you take the time ti attend someone's wedding that you haven't talked with in the last years or few years back???
Most of us, just can't find a time to enjoy the relationships in our day-to-day lives. Worse, some of us have unresolved conflict with a child, a sister, a parent, a friend or a spouse that's like a low-grade fever of our lives. It keeps us from feeling mentally free to enjoy the rest of our lives without feeling guilty and regret. The chapter reflects on the value of relationships to our mental dan emotional health.

Smart move #8:
- Bend so you don't break - bad things happen to good people. the key to understanding and surviving the frustrations and tragedies in our lives is a flexible attitude. The chapter will inspire the readers with courageous acts and uplifting attitudes from those women who have found themselves facing the crisis in health, marriage, career, and finances.

Smart move #9:
- Seek Spiritual Guidance - the chapter highlights the attention smart women have paid to their spiritual development and what the spiritual dimension addss to their lives

Smart move #10:
- Swim in the seasons of life - some people have been swimming upstream all their lives.In whatever situation they have found themselves, it seems that everybody else is doing something different. Impatience and a sour outlook can become a way of life. The chapter serves as a reminder that timing means everything in enjoying life, and feeling gratitude despite the circumstances we are expecting in the present.

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